A Beginner's Guide to Female Stimulators
Thankfully, the conversation surrounding female pleasure has undergone a huge, positive transformation in recent years, and in turn, so has the talk surrounding sex products for women. Female pleasure and female orgasm is no longer a taboo subject and the misguided stigmas that surrounded female masturbation are at last disappearing. There is much more understanding of the physical and mental benefits that self-pleasure and masturbation can bring with a raft of scientifically proven benefits such as encouraging more fulfilling sleep, higher levels of happiness, lower amounts of stress and fewer menstrual pains among them.
We prefer to call them Pleasure Enhancers
At JOOI we firmly believe that these products should be considered pleasure enhancers as they are not setting out to ‘replace’ anyone but are designed to give the user greater pleasure and more and better orgasms whether that be solo or partnered sex. Not only can they help add variety to your sex-life but they can also help add spice to long-term relationships. Using vibrators and stimulators also let you experiment with sensation and different types of stimulation and can help you explore and understand your body better and get to know your own pleasure zones. Using sex products is completely normal and there should be no stigma surrounding buying and owning these products – in fact some of them are so well designed you might even want to leave them on display!
There are products to stimulate every part of your body
There is a plethora of Female products now available designed to target and stimulate any and every part of the body. Whether you prefer clitoral stimulation or maybe penetration is more your thing then there is a product out there for you. Whilst Vibrators are quite often used to describe any kind of penetrative sex device this is a bit simplistic as not all Dilettos (we think this Italian word sounds so much better than Dildo!) are vibrators, because they don’t all vibrate. Similarly, not all vibrators are designed to be used for penetrative sex with products such as wand massagers and clitoral stimulators being designed purely for external stimulation. When it comes to vibration levels, not everyone is going to be the same. Some people may need a really powerful stimulator to feel satisfied, while others may prefer a gentler sensation. But don’t stress as most stimulators will have a range of vibration levels and pulsation patterns, so you can usually adjust the strength of the vibration and sensation to suit your individual preferences.
Given the vast array of female products now available the aim of this guide is to give you an insight into the main product types, how they work, where they target and most importantly what pleasure they will bring to your life!
The rabbit is the best-selling sex toy model in the world and no wonder! A rabbit is essentially a G-spot vibe with a clitoral vibrator attached to the shaft, giving you the best of both worlds. The external part usually looks like rabbit ears that provides vibration to the clitoris, while a second attachment goes inside the vagina for G-spot stimulation. This toy is perfect for exploring the world of blended orgasms with simultaneous internal and external stimulation.
You should look for Rabbit vibrators that allow you to control the vibrator patterns of both legs separately, because usually the G-spot and clitoris need different intensities.
Wands (also known as a magic wand or ‘body massager’) are a vibrating toy made for external use, featuring a large head, flexible neck and rigid body. They are typically mains powered for the most intense vibrations and offer vibrations at a higher RPM and give many women more intense orgasms that traditional vibrators. They tend to work well for those who need a strong sensation or who have difficulty getting fully aroused without intense stimulation.
Wands are an excellent gender-neutral toy that are relatively popular across the spectrum. They can also be used for applying stimulation to your non-nether regions, doubling as back and shoulder massagers, a teasing tool to trace on someone’s back, or a very intense nipple toy.
Clitoral vibrators are typically much smaller, less phallic shaped than classic vibrators and are designed to target and precisely stimulate the clitoris externally. They are discreet and great for solo play or for use by your partner to direct powerful, targeted stimulation to your clitoris.
They are commonly silicone covered and can be great for a shyer beginner, as they tend to be discreet due to their size and design. Be warned though, size has no bearing on the power these toys can pack.
G-spot vibes are designed for internal use to direct vibrations to stimulate this specific cluster of nerve endings. With a firm, angled tip, G-spot vibrators give the pressure (and vibrations) needed to stimulate the G-spot to give a sensational orgasm.
G-spot vibrators do not have to be used solely for internal use, you can use then all over your body to explore different sensations. Some women enjoy running them along their inner thigh for stimulation. Some G-spot vibrators have an option of a rotating tip which some of you might find makes them extra special.
The go to sex-toy for many women as well as being perfect for first timers. Cylindrical in shape, with a firm shaft, they are non-threatening and designed for easy penetration. They have a range of intensities so you can control the experience and be sure to feel the vibrations and pulsations. Easy to clean and maintain they really are a must have.
Dilettos (or Dildos) are one of the oldest and most versatile sex toys around with the stimulation coming from their length, girth and surface texture alone as they are non-vibrating and are meant to simulate penile penetration. Dilettos are typically non-vibrating phallic-shaped toys used for penetration but that doesn’t mean that they have to look like realistic penises.
Glass and metal Dilettos can also be great for people who have discomfort or pain with penetration as they are frictionless and go in smoothly and can also be a great bridge to penetrative sex for people who need slower, more gradual dilation. Plus, glass and metal toys are great for temperature play because you can warm them up or cool them down.
Bullet vibrators are small, discreet toys that funnily enough look like a … bullet! Designed for clitoral use both direct or indirect, these little gadgets are typically made from either plastic or have a metal coating. Bullet vibrators offer intense stimulation in a compact package. Incredibly portable, these can easily travel with you and be thrown into your purse or suitcase for on-the-go pleasure. Perfect for discreet solo sessions and small enough to be used with a partner.
Clitoral Suction Vibrators
These are small vibrators that use sonic waves to create a gentle sucking and provide a VERY different sensation to vibrators as there is no direct contact. By stimulating the clitoris through pressure-waves and air pulses, they produce a sensation that is akin, or even better, than oral sex.
As Clitoral suction vibrators do not have direct contact it means they: do not irritate your skin (enabling prolonged use); stimulate the whole clitoris (not just the external part); improve blood flow to the region.
In addition, they are also great for those who may find vibration patterns of normal vibrators just too intense.
Ben Wa or Kegel balls are used for carrying out exercises that tone and strengthen your Kegel muscles which can be the key to faster, easier and better orgasms. Kegel balls are designed to be inserted into the vagina and used to strengthen vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. The small, weighted balls come in a variety of different weights and sizes to help you contract and release different muscles with ease. However, Kegel balls do more than just get your pelvic floor into shape, they’re actually better known for enhancing sexual pleasure and can give enjoyable sensations to the wearer whilst exercising the kegel muscles
Vibrating Love eggs
These are small and discreet egg-shaped vibrators usually measuring between 2-3 inches and are often activated by remote control with a variety of patterns of vibrations. These vibrations are more muted than a regular vibrator, offering a more subtle pulsation that can reverberate through the entire pelvic region. They are inserted into the vagina like you would a Kegel ball and can be left in during sex or used as foreplay, but they really come into their own during oral sex. Love eggs have the added benefit of typically being quiet, waterproof, rechargeable and easy to store/travel with.
Finger vibrators or finger sleeves are little toys that attach to the ends of your fingers and are great fun and also perfect for first timers. They come in a multitude of sizes, ranging from ones that just fit over your finger tips to several times the length and width of the finger. They might be small, but they still deliver strong vibrations and because they are worn on the finger, by you or your partner, they can deliver pin-point sensation. Use them to stimulate nipples, inners thighs and the lower abdomen until you get to more your more intimate parts. These toys can also be used solo to enhance masturbation. Add a little lubrication to heighten the sensation and feelings even further.
Mini vibrators are small, discreet toys that are incredibly portable and can easily slip into your handbag or purse for travelling. They are great for stimulating all over your body and whilst they may be petite don’t let that fool you – they still pack a mighty sensual punch! Great for first timers who may be a little wary of some of the larger vibrators and want to start off with something a little less intimidating.